What makes a good parent?
A good parent strives to make decisions in the best interest of the child.
A good parent doesn’t have to be perfect.
No child is perfect either.
It is important to keep this in mind when we set our expectations.
But it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t work towards that goal.
We should set high standards for ourselves first and then for our children as well.
We need to serve as a role model to them.
Here are 9 tips on learning effective parenting skills.
1. Nurture Your Child’s Self-Esteem:
The children begin to develop as babies when they see themselves through the eyes of their parents.
Tone of voice, body language, and your every expression are taken up by your children.
Your words and actions (as a parent) affect their own development more than anything else.
Belittling comments or a child does compare well with other children to feel worthless.
Choose your words carefully and be compassionate.
Let your kids know that everyone makes mistakes.
And that you still love them, even when you don’t love their behavior.
Let the kids do things independently.
It will feel them more capable and strong.
2. Catch Kids Being Good:
Try to act positively with your child.
Your negative behavior, frequent criticism, and constant demoralization adversely bring down your child’s esteem.
Did you ever notice how many times you acted negatively to your baby in a day?
Whenever you find your child doing something praiseworthy say good things about him/her.
Make your child feel as if he or, she is the best child in the world.
Give them compliments as they can do wonders in boosting their morale.
3. Set Limits and Be Firm With Your Discipline:
Be disciplined and little rigid in your household.
Yes. It is a part of effective parenting.
Discipline is vital in aiding the children to adopt the acceptable social behaviors.
Household disciplinary rules include doing homework properly, avoiding name calling, no hitting and teasing others, etc.
As these all are socially unacceptable conducts.
4. Take Out Time For Your Kids:
Having busy and hectic schedules, it is seen that parents often hardly spend any quality time with their baby.
Parents must make time for the child, have outings, ensure you have at least one meal a day together, go on walks, vacations, etc. with your kids.
And see your relationship bloom.
Spending even a few minutes everyday with your kid can do miracles for your kid.
Your company enhances his/her confidence and improves his/her personality.
It is seen that kids not getting adequate attention from their parents misbehave more often and are more aggressively.
5. As A Good Example:
Another vital corner of effective parenting.
Children learn a lot form how their parents behave and act with others.
The young children are more prone in picking cues from your behavior.
Avoid shouting and behaving angrily in front of kids as they are also going to behave in a similar manner.
And remember, you are a role model for your kids and they watch you constantly.
So behave properly and decently.
6. Open Communication Area:
There are times when children do not follow what you want them to do.
Be patient in such situations.
And try to give them simple explanations as to why you want them to do.
Alternatively, you can also ask your child to suggest a solution for a problem.
Also be open your child’s suggestions.
Because this creates a sense of responsibility and involvement in them.
Remember kids participating in making decisions are more encourage then carrying them out.
7. Adjust Your Parenting Style:
Do not feel ‘let down’ if your child does not meet up to your expectations.
Environment plays an important role in how your child behaves and reacts to you.
If you are constantly saying “no” to your 2 years old child and expecting the perfect behavior from him/her, the things might go a little out of your hands, time to time.
And finally, this will mitigate frustrations for both you and the baby.
With time, you need to gradually change your parenting style.
Chances are, what works with your child now, might not work after one or, two years from now.
8. Show Your Love Is Unconditional:
Your child requires proper guidance and being a parent it is your utmost duty to correct your kid wherever and whenever needed.
Effective parenting says there is no such thing as loving your child too much. Loving them cannot spoil them.
Only what you choose to do in the name of love can — things like material indulgence, leniency, low expectation and over-protection.
When these things are given in place of real love, that’s when you’ll have a spoiled child.
Loving your child can be as simple as giving them hugs, spending time with them and listening to their issues seriously.
Showing these acts of love can trigger the release of feel-good hormones such as oxytocin, opioids and prolactin.
These neuro-chemicals can bring us a deep sense of calm, emotional warmth and contentment, from these the child will develop resilience and not to mention a closer relationship with you.
9. Have Faith in Your Child:
Build confidence and faith in your child’s abilities and do not hesitate in expressing it to him.
For example if he is weak in studies, encourage him and tell him that you now he can easily learn his lessons.
If he tells you something, instead of dismissing his statements, probe him further and tell him that your trust him but you need to know other facts as well.
Good parents must be open to adapt new styles of effective parenting, should not be too loving or too strict, and should be involved in their child’s life to foster nurtured, loved and socially responsible adults.
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